Inspiration - The Fuel for Better Living

What is inspiration?, why do I need to be inspired?, how do I get inspired?, how do I inspire people?, these are questions that pops into my head whenever the word Inspiration is mentioned

Inspiration is derived from the word "INSPIRE" which is to fill Oneself or Someone with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative. Inspiration is a great tool towards achieving that great life which at one point or the other we all have envisioned. Inspiration is the force that fuels our passion, inspiration can never be Over Emphasized because it is what drives us to achieve great feats.

There are so many reasons why you need to be inspired. Ever been in a situation where you just feel you are going in circles, stagnant, hopeless and having thoughts of giving up? Inspiration is the best bet for you at that point. Inspiration fuels your drive to rise up again after a great fall, inspiration imbibe in you a greater power, a force to do the extraordinary, inspiration makes you see a mountain out of a mole hill,inspiration influences, stimulates and motivates you. Inspiration fuels our urge for a better life.

How can we get inspired?, I can't happily say "yeah I've  passed a message" to you if I can't tell you how u can be inspired, in the same vein my life won't be fulfilled  If I can't inspire people. Well, from my little life's sojourn I've discovered that inspiration can be gotten from different sources both positive and negative, but I'll focus on the former because its the major reason for my writing this post. Inspiration strikes in many different forms, it could be gotten from Religious books, there's no better source of inspiration than the Bible and the Qur'an, the inspiration gotten from these books gears us towards positive and rightful living. We can also be inspired from peoples stories, people who experienced life's hurdles before us, through the form of tweets, Facebook posts et al, its just a matter of hearing about one person's amazing accomplishment. These are but a few sources of inspiration. It isn't always easy to find inspiration, but you know it when you find it (but if you're looking too hard, you may turn up empty).

Inspiring People should be your ultimate goal once you've been inspired, no man is an island, u can inspire people in one way too many. Caring for people is one great means of inspiring people, People don’t care about how much you know, until they know how much you care. When you Lead by example people get inspired, practice what you preach. Say what is on your mind, the person next to you might just be thinking the same but scared or shy to say it out, If you take the risk and say the things others are holding back, you become the glue that brings people together. Try and make people feel good about themselves, try telling people what you like about them, People will rarely remember what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel, they'll always see you as an inspirational source. Always tell people about your success and failure stories, they'll definitely learn from them.

May This Little Light Of Mine Inspire You, May It Brighten Your Horizon

Get Inspired today and make sure you inspire others, Focus on the positive, be happy with who you are now and let your positivity inspire your Journey into a greater tomorrow

A New Day

Ever thought how it would feel like one morning when you open your eyes and realize u are no more mortal, you look down and you find your copy lying lifeless on the bed. Scary yeah?, it dawns on you "This is the end of the road".

Every new day we experience is an opportunity given by our maker to set right yesterday's mistake, correct yesterday's wrong, and rise up from yesterday's failures.

Each new day is a new life which distinguishes animals and plants from inorganic matter, including the capacity for growth, reproduction and being functional.

Each New day presents us with the opportunity to hope again, each new day gives us the feeling that what is wanted can be gotten or that events will turn out for the best.

Each new day gives us the ability to look forward to something with desire and reasonable confidence".

Every New Day is a Gift (Open it Up)

Today is a new day,hope for the best, don't worry about yesterday's problems, because today you just might find your solution, live for today and pray for a better tomorrow.

Today is a new day. Don't let your history or your past interfere with your destiny! Let today be the day you stop being a victim of your circumstances and start taking action towards the life you want. You have the power and the time to shape your life. Break free from the poisonous victim mentality and embrace the truth of your greatness. You were not meant for a mundane or mediocre life!. You cant reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterdays junk, forget your past, forgive yourself and begin again.

May Your Day Be As Bright As The Sun!

Failure (Friend Or Foe?)

How do you feel after an exam you weren't sure of? you just have that conviction that you've failed, even before seeing your exam result. A lot of us must have been in that situation. I have been there quite a lot of times, flipping through my life's pages I wonder if failure was my friend or foe, after much thoughts, events and experiences, I came to a final conclusion.

Failure is the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective. Failure in most cases may be viewed as the opposite of success. Well to me failure is that point where I get to and realize i've not done enough to achieve success. Failure to you might be the end but to another like me it is the beginning of a better result, that you failed in a particular objective doesn't mean you can't make it

Here's the story of Charles Goodyear (The Father of Rubber Products)

Charles Goodyear was a young man from Philadelphia who had a passion for invention, one morning Goodyear walked into the New York retail store of a Rubber company and presented his newly devised valve for preserving Rubber

The manager of the retail store shook his head sadly because his company wasn't in the market for rubber valves, well Goodyear didn't give up on his quest, he pocketed his Valve and went back home. When he got back to philadelphia he was put in jail for debt. That also didn't stop him in his quest, he asked his wife to bring him raw rubber and her rolling pin, there in jail, Goodyear made his first rubber experiments, working on it hour to hour. After he left jail he did a lot of experiments which failed, but that wasn't enough to stop Goodyear from continuing. After five futile years Goodyear was near rock bottom (because he was bankrupt and in debt), his family was hungry,yet he wasn't dissuaded, he lost six out of twelve kids but that didn't stop him,he saw failure as a friend not a foe, at a point Goodyear became very sick but he was still bent on his quest, he sometimes didn't sleep at night because he was scared he was going to die and his secrets die with him. Goodyear achieved great feat later on because even in failure he persevered, "after all failure was my companion" he always said to himself. Today, Charles Goodyear is known to be the Father of Rubber Products With Billion Dollar Goodyear Tire and Rubber Company (The World's Largest Rubber Business) named after him. Life," he wrote, "should not be estimated exclusively by the standard of dollars and cents. I am not disposed to complain that I have planted and others have gathered the fruits. A man has cause for regret only when he sows and no one reaps."

The story of Charles Goodyear should be a perfect example to me and you, when we fail we shouldn't just stop there, we should make failure our friend and see it as a means to achieving greatness. Thomas J. Watson is attributed with saying "If you want to succeed, double your failure rate". Failure gives us another opportunity to try again and make things better, besides a great deal can be learned from things going unexpectedly.

Make failure your friend today and your name will be written in History's Book

Never Give Up,Never Back Down (Part 1)

Life is a Beautiful Thing Some people Say,Life is Hard others Scream!,well who am I to shove one's view of life down the drain, when its quite obvious every one experiences life in a whole new different way, to one life is filled with a whole lot of goodies,while to the other life is wicked,biased and not worth living.

Few weeks ago a Man Jumped from the 8th floor of the Federal Secretariat Building in Port Harcourt,Rivers State,Nigeria and Died, suicide we all may call it, though the cause of his action is yet to be ascertained. When I got wind of this unusual event, in shock I asked myself why will someone who is not disabled,someone who is healthy decide to end his life in such manner. In sorrow I could hear a voice ask me "Victor Can You Do This?"..and in a quick rush I answered "Hell No! I can't"

I decided to write my Never Give Up,Never Back Down post to save the next person who is thinking of committing suicide,or thinking of giving up. www.freedictionary.com defines giving up as an act of admitting defeat, yielding, surrendering and relinquishing

Why do we give up?,why do we back down?. From life's stories told,movies seen I have come to understand that people give up for different reasons, a quick question tho,before giving up did you ask yourself "is this the best option for me right now, did I give this my all?..well, I'll leave you to answer that.

Here's my story

I was in a terrible situation some years back,where all hope was lost, having gained admission into a higher institution after years of JAMBing n POST UMEing, started school only to be told I couldn't continue because I was deficient in English Language, I was stunned,shocked,battered,confused,frustrated in a nutshell i was Dead Literally. I remember going to see my HOD one early morning, explained to him what I was going through with hope he was going to heed to my cry and extend my result presentation by a year and sign to that effect to enable me continue with my studies,but I got a  shocking reply from him, he was like "Son your are still very young, go and write another jamb and waec and comeback next year" I was astonished at his response, I went home that morning confused, angry at life and in total sadness. I woke up the next morning telling myself I will never write Jamb exam again because I saw myself as a failure, I neva knew that was the worst thing I was doing "seeing myself as a failure", I gave up. I drew a line, "University Education" wasn't my thing. Now the Big Bang!, I got a Call from my Big Sister Chioma Juliet (pinky) one morning and I told her what I have decided to do,she wasn't happy with my decision,she spoke to me for a while listing why I needed a University Education and all that,that I should give it one more try,I gave her a cold answer,told her I was going to try again,and that was it. Few weeks after her call I came across a Motivational Zig Zigler Book, which I read and discovered calling myself a failure n giving up was the wrongest of all things to do, I got to understand that Failure aint a person, failure is a step to achieving that which I desire, to that effect I decided to pick up my shattered pieces and try again,I decided to never say never, I called my Big Sis and told her I was willing to try again,she was happy at my decision, I got a Jamb n WASSCE form, went for my exams,wrote it amidst fears. Well to cut the long story short, I wrote my exams and came out successful, out of over five thousand intending students who sat for Computer Science Department Post UME exams for my school,I was the 8th person on the merit Admission List. I was speechless, I remembered purchasing my Form on the Final day of the form sales,I was successful and I was happy.

From my story I almost backed down, gave up and threw in the towel, which would have been to my own detriment but for the timely effort of My Family, Ziglar's book, Friends and my openness to advice. I wasn't perfect but I knew I could make it, I surrounded myself with the right people who didn't believe in backing down, and it paid off.

My Dearest Friend(s) Reading this, my story may not be catchy to you but I expect it to give u a rethink about life, you can't be successful if you fall and never stand up,you can't make it if you don't try, you can't win the race if you aint in the race,never back down,never give up, the right time to stop trying is never, life is about running after your dream and never backing down or giving up,

To My Male Friends - a man should never back down, a man should stand up to his beliefs or shut up, I believe in falling and rising up again and not giving up

To the the ladies - Be that strong girl that everyone knew would make it through the worst, be that fearless girl, the one who would dare to do anything, be that independent girl who didn't need to rely on anyone but herself to make it, be that girl who never backed down,that girl who never gave up.

A Big thanks to Pinky (Chioma) My Family,Chris,Obie Onugha, Natasha, Zig Ziglar and all others who were part of my success Story

NEVER GIVE UP,NEVER BACK DOWN (To Be Continued)

Ladies, Make A Man Fall In Love With You,Zero Stress Involved

If you've been struggling to get the man you're with to fully BE in the relationship with you - to commit his heart and his mind to you - to fall "IN love" with you and not just "love you," then you know men don't "work" the same way you women do.

You know there's got to be some way to make this kind of love happen for you, but you just haven't found it yet.

And you know for sure that what you've been doing - in fact, what you've always done (and most all of u women have always done) - doesn't work.

If you're feeling stuck like this, you're not alone.

Ma ''***''' was there most of her life.

She'd get involved with one man way too quickly, give him her whole heart - even if he said he wasn't ready for a relationship or wasn't in love with her - and then break her own heart.

While I was Interviewing Her, She found herself going back over the whole history of Her love life. Old feelings came back to her, and memories She didn't know She had.

Along with the horrible memories of Imaginary Relationships there were memories of some men who'd loved Her, but who she hadn't loved. There were memories of a man She thought she'd lost because of the mistakes She was making, but in the memory, just being with him feels bad.

She is so glad she took a moment to look back at this, because it really comes down to what She teach - that you can use everything that's ever happened to you to QUICKLY get the man and the relationship you really want.

It's as though everything else was a warm-up to her husband.

She realize now how scared She was of the "Real Thing." And how long She pushed it away.

If you're like She was, you think that being "cool" and "helpful" and "nice" and even "understanding" is the way to a man's heart. And, If you're like she was, and so many of her clients are, you've worked hard to ACT "cool" and "helpful" and "nice" and "understanding" - and even "sexy," and just been shocked when, not only does that NOT make your man come closer - it seems to create even MORE distance between you.

And then - you get angry. Angry and resentful and tense.

And we all know what happens then.

You start to feel totally unappreciated, and U tell him so. U as a Lady start asking for the "basics" that U should always be getting from a man - affection, attention, great sex, fun, and U start feeling hurt and telling him he's hurting u. Every time u just try to "express" urself and tell him what's wrong in the relationship and how it could be so much better - an argument starts. Pretty soon every conversation ends in angry words, and pretty soon conversation stops - because no one wants to fight, and yet - there's a fight about everything.

Sometimes U get so frustrated U want to leave, but most of the time U get so frustrated U just want to shake him. When this goes on for awhile, U can get discouraged. U decide to work even harder at the relationship, and then what happens?

It all gets worse.

Or U give up.

Well, I won't let you give up. And you don't have to.

There's a way to undo all the damage that's happened and a way to make sure the painful patterns of anger and frustration never even get started.

If you want to take the next step in understanding how to avoid all of these traps, find your inner confidence and either set the relationship you have right again or start off a new relationship in a foolproof new way.

Most of u think a relationship is about emotions, and you're right about that - but u usually end up focusing on the WRONG emotions - his. So many of u get caught up in trying to make something happen on HIS END of the relationship - and that's when u lose everything.

The moment u start trying to manipulate him, or use strategy or play games to "get" him, or cover over your real self in order to "please" him, u kill the love that's already there, and cut yourself off from love in the future.

The moment u focus on HIM, instead of on yourself, u lose ground.

But doing the opposite seems impossible. It seems hard. It seems way too scary - like letting go of the wheel of a car, or letting go of the rails when you're up high or moving fast. And sometimes it feels impossible because u've never ever seen any other woman DO IT - and u have no clues about how to do it for yourself.

So, how does a man fall in love?

And what does he love about you?

Well, first of all, if he's dating you, he's interested in you. So many of u Ladies feel so bad about yourselves u feel honored just to be asked out - and that's not the way it is. He's asking you out because he's attracted to you, he's interested in you, and he wants to spend time with you.

But here's a good question - does he have a checklist of his own for falling in love?

You know - the woman he falls for has to look a certain way, act a certain way, do certain things, have a certain background or certain skills?

And the answer is - sure he has a checklist - going in. That means, he thinks he has a "type" and he thinks he knows what he wants. But all that goes out the window when he sees you.

Attraction has nothing to do with a checklist.

And I'm not talking about sexual attraction (which is something most men can feel for almost any woman). I'm talking about EMOTIONAL attraction.

Emotional Attraction, for a man, can happen instantly. And that's what you want to invite him to do - be instantly emotionally attracted to you.

And that attraction will only GROW with time, as you allow him to see more and more of you by expressing your feelings in a way he can truly, deeply connect with, and let yourself be vulnerable in his presence.

The one thing I'd never do, and the thing that absolutely stops emotional attraction cold and starts resentment and fighting is PRETENDING.

And most of u are so afraid of "rocking the boat" or "looking bad" or "being weak" that u pretend to be strong and end up closing yourself off from your man.

And instead of your feelings coming out all soft and true and clear and authentic and emotionally appealing - they way they REALLY ARE - they come out all spiky and angry and forward leaning. They come out as complaining and demanding and attacking.

And if u DON'T let them out that way, then u hold them in so long u either explode one day and destroy everything, or u get sick inside.

I don't want you to have to go through any of that.

I want you to know what i learnt 4rm my ***. How to let your feelings out without pushing a man away. How to use everything you've ever experienced, even the painful things, to bring him close. How to just BE with a man so he'll feel helplessly, deeply, emotionally attracted to you, fall for you, and work hard to keep YOU.

That's the way it happens for a man, and it's my mission to help you have that experience, right now.

The thing is, if you THINK you're expressing yourself now, but he isn't falling, chances are you're doing it the old way - the way that doesn't work. If you're feeling angry and resentful and thinking it's HIS FAULT, then chances are that the way you're looking at this is a big part of the problem. It's likely that the way you're looking at it is actually both CAUSING you to be upset, and causing HIM to upset you in the first place.

If you're tired of doing things the same way and getting the same results, then you may be ready to take a new step in a different direction.

Instead of going down the road that leads to the same old places and same old romance dead- ends, you can undo the damage and quickly learn to do what actually WORKS so a man won't be able to help himself - he'll just fall in love with you.

You can change your love life from a string of Imaginary, painful relationships into the one relationship you really want. The one that will last you your whole life long......